Playing at the game of life has its challenges but you should never have to gamble your physical - or mental - health for the sake of going all in.

So how do you go all in at work and not be all consumed to the point of exhaustion and burnout or worst yet the dreaded quiet quitting?

Working - and living - in a start-up (or start-up with legs) culture for most of my career, I have learned several things - most of them from my many trips to Vegas (my least favorite city BTW).

Go all in and play the game, give it your all, AND walk away a winner with your sanity mostly intact.

Every hand's a winner.

Why? Because we get to choose to look at life through the lens of positivity. Our mentality determines our reality. Our thoughts determine our actions and our actions determine our outcomes. So look at your cards, find a way to see the possibility and then play the hand you were dealt.

In your current role and situation, there may be significant challenges. So choose to see the positives including the lessons you are learning, and find a way to enjoy the journey. You will be happier and healthier.

Bet on yourself.

You have everything that you need at your fingertips to win at the game of life. There will be highs, there will be lows, but if you keep moving forward, do the right things and believe in what you can accomplish - you will win every single time because even a failure is just an opportunity to learn and get better the next time.

Advocate for yourself and ask the right questions. What does success look like? How do I get X resources to deliver Y results? And never be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

Work together with those at the table, beat the dealer, and everyone wins.

Teamwork is important. It may mean you won't always win at that moment, but if you work together, you can bend the will of the cards in favor of the table - causing the dealer to bust. The moment you think only of yourself, you put everyone at the mercy of the cards and the dealer. Stop always showing your poker face and be real with the people around you. Choose teamwork and help others win with you along the way.

Cash in your chips when you are ahead.

It's easy to keep chasing the high you get from the win. But how much sweeter is it to stop when you are ahead, put the chips in your pocket and walk away with more than you came with. Even if the "more" is wisdom from a failure, friendship from the team you were in, or watching someone you helped win at their game.

Think about the hand you have been dealt.

Will you see the good in it, choose to believe in yourself, work with those around you, and cash in when you are ahead? If you do then maybe, just maybe, you will not only survive, but thrive in this world.

I'm all in - how about you

'As you go' life lessons

As you go - that's a term I use about life and knowing that integrating ALL of life, means doing what God wants AS you go about your daily life activities. Here is one such 'as you go' lesson I learned yesterday - because God speaks in the normal everyday things we do.

What can you learn from a one pot meal after a crazy couple of days at work?

1. In the right order things can be made simple.

I could have used multiple pots and then combined all the pieces, but instead, I created a process that allowed me to use a single pot for the whole thing!

Boil noodles and drain
Brown meat add back to the pot
Add sauce and spices
Mix in meat, noodles and cheese
Voila - One pot to clean!

2. Stirring many ingredients together will produce a better result than any one thing on its own.

This is true for recipes and teams. Get lots of ideas, bring the smart people in the room and watch the magic happen when they build upon an idea and make it even better.

3. Don’t freak out when it looks messy - trust the process.

Everything was coming together, but the cheese was stringy and it was looking like it would not melt. I started to freak out (even though it tasted good) aren't we silly creatures sometimes. But continued low heat and constant stirring did the trick and the consistency was perfect!

3. Patience produces a wonderful result!

Frustration started rising yet I persevered. And even through the heat - the test, the trial, the conflict and the challenges - if you keep your cool and let them do their work - temperature and pressure create beauty like diamonds and amazing dinners too because God knows what He is doing.

In the end I had dinner with my kids and the payoff was...I forgot about the stresses of the day and enjoyed hearing about their worlds.

What can you learn from making dinner for your family? Apparently a whole bunch!

WHEE or WHOA?

Our family spent quality time in the ocean this summer with every day filled with playing, laughing, swimming, paddling and generally just hanging out in the ocean waves. 

There were many firsts that week:

• The first time my kids found live sand dollars by the thousands
• The first time my husband rode a paddle board
• The first time my kids saw a manatee swimming in the ocean next to them
• The first time one of them had ridden a jet ski
• The first time they kayaked in the intercoastal waterway
• The first time my car held two paddle boards and a kayak as I drove over the intercoastal waterway with the hatchback open - making the drawbridge operators smile every time I went by!

It was a great week.  But the most common word heard that week was this:  WHHHHHEEEEEEEE! The word was expressed out of pure joy.  The fun feeling of riding the waves as you bob up and down in the water and it made the rest of us smile as there was nothing but exhilaration found in the sound.

It was heard every time one of us floated on or over a wave.  We laughed about it too.  There were four of us in the ocean, and every few seconds you would hear one of us loudly exclaim - WHHHHHHEEEEEEE!

And it got me thinking as I watched this storm roll in...

Where does the threshold exist that the WHEE becomes WHOA and I get scared and forget to enjoy the ride?  

When does the wave transition from joy-filled to fear-filled?

When do I stop looking at the horizon and seeing the beauty and instead turn all my attention to the waves themselves and question my sanity for wanting to "play" in them.  

Storms change your perspective of the simple wave.  The wind, the clouds, the sights and sounds of the storm cause you to rethink the fact that these waves are still just waves.  

When Jesus was asleep in the boat - FILLED WITH PEACE - and the disciples - LIKE US - were freaking out over the storm...Jesus simply rebuked the wind, but only spoke to the waves.  

The waves in our lives are not the problem.  They are a symptom of the wind.  So when you are riding the waves of life and you find yourself saying WHOA - not WHEE - ask God if the wind is blowing because He is breathing something new over you or if you need to rebuke the wind and watch the waves settle back down. 

I bet He will tell you which and then you can rest in the peace that He is sovereign.

Words mean things

As a marketing professional the phrase "words mean things" permeates my world.  

Many phrases linger in my head as I perform my daily tasks, but none is truer than "words mean things".  Power is released through words.  Words have a specific meaning.  Words leave an impression.  Words are transformational.  Just ask any kid who was hurt by a mean girl or lifted up through a sincere compliment delivered in their dark moment. 

Carefully selecting the right word at the right moment is not only magical in marketing it can provide life to those who need it - or curse with death.

From the beginning, it was the spoken word that created every single thing we see today.  God said - and it happened.  His words sparked the very existance of a variety of wonderful, mysterious and amazing creatures as well as the immense natural beauty that surrounds us. Sunrises, sunsets, waterfalls, oceans, stars, forests, rivers - all came to be because words were spoken.

Today's words from THE WORD are a reminder to me to "push through" to perseverance and do it with joy.  Trials are only trumped when you push through the darkness. And God is truly glorified if you push through with joy.

James tells us to "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

Joy in trials...come on now...who does that???

Well in Hebrews 12:1-3 we see that as we become more like Jesus, WE CAN DO THAT!

"And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."

Three words stuck out in both of these passages, consider, joy and perseverance. If we CONSIDER what Jesus endured, we can CONSIDER it JOY- pure joy - when we experience any trial - because that trial, when pushed through, will eventually be trumped and develop the PERSEVERANCE we need and keep us from growing weary and losing heart.  

This world is troubling.  You will have trials.  You will fall.  You might fail.  People will disappoint. Jobs will end.  BUT GOD...my two favorite words have the best meaning of all!  If God be for me, who can be against me and if He works all things together for my good, then no matter the challenge, trial, or disappointment I face in this life, God trumps it. 

How can I not push through to perseverance with pure joy? 

His words say I can. 

And His words mean even more than mine! They are magical and majestic full of consideration, perseverance and joy.

Where do you hang your hat?

Since I am in between seasons in EVERY area of my life at the moment - this phrase hit me hard - right between the eyes. Where do you hang your hat Sherry?  

So often we think in terms of where you live - your house, apartment, the place you go at the end of the day and call "home".

But in this world, so often we spend more time where we work than where we live - well that was until 2020 came crashing into our lives and work and home intertwined in a way like never before - and what we used to call "working from home", quite literally became "living at work".  

I am living through an in between like no other.  I have had many in betweens in this crazy messed up life and they are all rather uncomfortable because lets face it - we all want to control the uncontrollable. But when things happen to us and we feel like we are losing control, sometimes the very best thing to do is to remember that you are not falling apart, but that God is doing a new thing and you just need to surrender.

I need a new place to hang my hat in almost every area of my life, so instead of trying to control it all and bend this world to my will, I want to change my perspective and live a life that shows that I understand that where I hang my hat is the dwelling place that scripture speaks of - the refuge, shelter and sense of belonging and home that can only be found in my heavenly Father.  

"Dwelling" or "Dwelling Place"...the writers of Psalms use it several times to describe the God of the universe.  They remind us that God is our dwelling place, our refuge, the true origination of the "feeling at home".  

How can one so magnificent, so vast and expansive, so holy and so pure be a safe place, a dwelling place, a refuge - a place to hang my dirty, sinful, stained, wrinkled and wretched hat?  

Because He loves me.  He loves me like no other.  He bought this dirty, sinful, stained, wrinkled and wretched hat.  He has a plan for me.  He knows my every need and desire of my heart.  He knows what I was designed to do.  He knows my pain.  He knows my fears.  He knows my insecurity. He knows my joys.  He knows my struggles.  He knows my shortcomings.  He knows my strengths.  He knows it all - and yet - He chose me.  He loves me.  

I needed a reminder that my identity is in WHOSE I am not WHAT I am or what I can DO - or even where I hang my hat - as long as I chose to hang it where He is - my dwelling place.  

Maybe you needed to hear those words today too.  Everything I just said for me is true for you too.  No matter your circumstances, your choices, your successes and your failures, He knows it all and still loves you too.  He wants to be the place where you hang your hat every day.  He wants to show you all that He has for you.  

Will you let Him show you your real worth, His real plan for you and the beauty in surrendering to the God of the universe as your hat rack?

Significant Six

Six years ago our lives changed forever.

Six years ago our story would become a new normal.

Six is just shy of seven - the number that signifies completion.

Six is today's anniversary.

March 30th marks six years since our imperfect, incomplete and yet indestructible lives were significantly altered.

I began to wonder today about the number six and what the Bible might offer about this very significant milestone as we remember that God is still good and we fight to find the victory each day.  I noticed two major patterns when I searched through mentions of this number in the passages I read.

Six is the number of man and a reminder of our weaknesses.

• On the sixth day God created man.
• In six days God created the world.
• On the sixth day of passover, all sins and judgements were restored.

Six comes before rest.

• The fourth commandment tells us we should work for six days and rest on the seventh.
• God also commanded the Israelites to harvest the land for six years and let it rest the seventh year.

In the six years since the stroke, my family has become increasingly aware of our weaknesses and need for God's strength to make it through each day and sometimes each moment.  In the past six years we have strived, often driven by our own strength rather than relying on God's, to make things move forward, to see progress and to pass milestones and maybe, just maybe, we are headed for a season where we learn to rest like we never have before.  

Significant six reminds me that if I rely on Him, through my weakness, He is made strong and that if history and God's commandments are true, rest is coming!

So we will enjoy the significance of six and prepare for seven.

Spinning. Turning. Twirling. Falling. Joyfully?!

When I was a little girl I loved the feeling of spreading my arms out wide and spinning around in circles until I could no longer stand up straight.  It was an amazing experience void of inhibitions and full of life, laughter and trust that the world would eventually get back to "normal" even if it never felt like it.

Having experienced the life shattering chaos that one's family undergoes when someone survives a life threatening stroke, the spinning, turning, twirling and falling that happens to one's marriage and family, can certainly make you feel like the only thing normal in your life is that of the setting on your dryer in your laundry room labelled "normal".

Balancing marriage, family, work and ministry can certainly feel unsettling at best and disruptively disturbing and worst. On your best days you may look - and even feel - as though you have it all together.  But on those bad days, where the world starts spinning out of control, you may find yourself questioning everything - all that you see and certainly everything you cannot see.

Faith seems hard to find on those days. 

Peace is hidden from your heart and soul.

Joy falls by the wayside into utter disbelief that the world will never make sense again.

There are other times, when you feel those things - and rightfully so - but the joy never ceases.  Why is that?  Resiliency is what I think makes the difference.  How does one become resilient? Can you decide to be resilient or is it something you are born with?

I don't have the answers to those questions, but I can tell you one thing that helps me to keep the twirling fun - LAUGHTER. 

An amazing person in my life once said..."if it is funny later, it is funny now" and I have chosen to live by that rule ever since I heard it.  And let me tell you, there are so many things that have happened post stroke that are absolutely absurd, you cannot NOT laugh later, so we choose to laugh in the middle of the chaos while falling.

Take our recent trip to Colorado...

My husband was not feeling well on the day that we were traveling to Colorado.  We doctored him up the best we could, but the situation was unnerving to say the least.  We arrived in Denver and in the chaos of tending to his needs, we managed to get off the plane, pick up our luggage, get in the bus to the rental car lot, pack the car with our luggage, drive an hour and a half in a snow storm to pick up our skis and groceries for the next 12 hours, drive to the cabin, unload the car in the snow, only to realize that the MOST IMPORTANT of all the bags we packed for my husband was left on the plane.

Now, you will often hear me say "You can't make this stuff up!" And it is so true.  His medicines, cell phone, iPad, - everything he needed for the trip for his own entertainment as well as his well being was in that bag! 

I stood there for a moment, shook my head, said a prayer of thanksgiving that we found it and no one had taken it, and then said well, you can't make this stuff up and we have a new story to tell!

Resilient?  You bet!

I choose to remember that this world is not really that shaky, because despite the spinning, turning, twirling and even falling - my God is sovereign.  He holds me steady.  He has a sense of humor. And I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that He will take care of all my needs - even when it means He has to protect the precious cargo that I left in the hands of the airlines instead of having my head on straight to remember all three suitcases, three - not two - back packs, two sets of ski boots, a cane, two teenagers and my husband in the first place!

So is this normal? It is to me.  I keep bouncing along, looking at the world as fraught with danger, but knowing that most of the time, the God of the universe is spinning these unbelievable stories into my blessings and let's face it - favor ain't fair - and I am ok with that.  I will keep spinning, turning, twirling and resiliently laughing with joy.  I am safe in my Father's arms...even when I fall down. 

Swimsuits and 'Law' suits

I recently visited a theme park with my BFF.  We go there A LOT with any number of our 5 kids and several of their friends.  This picture is from an earlier trip...and we have tons of these!

I have to admit...we are the fun moms.  The ones that are willing to go when we are DOG tired, ride all the rides (except the spinny ones) and we agree to let them drag us around the park and they occasionally thank us by letting us go sit in the shade - or at the waterpark - and just chill while they gallivant around the park with their friends. 

This particular trip was no different.  Except that it was HOT outside. I usually wear shorts and a tank top to this park, but with our water adventures, I donned my shorts and a swimsuit tank top and headed to the park.

We were walking into the park, when 3 young girls walked past us in tube tops - I didn't even know those were back in style! Anyway, we shrugged it off to being young and went into the park.  The attendant at the entrance told me that my VERY MODEST swimsuit tank top was not "family appropriate" at the park. 

Imagine my confusion at her statement when I had just seen those very skimpy tube tops, the jeans with virtually no fronts to them, and the shorts where the pockets (among other things) hang out the bottom and leave nothing to the imagination!

I started to make my case, when a still small voice told me to let it go.  As I pondered the situation, it became a very teachable moment for me and my children.  And I began to ask myself (and later my children) the question, would I rather live under the spirit of the law or the letter of the law?

The spirit of the law of no swimsuits and 'family friendly' attire is to ensure that people are modestly dressed. The letter of the law says that anything made of swimsuit material, regardless of the appropriateness of wearing the exact same style shirt in cotton, because it is made for swimming, is not allowed in the park.

It got me thinking about how God really looks at the "why" we do things, not so much the "what" we did.  He cares about the motives.  He cares about the spirit of our actions, not just our maintaining the letter of His law. 

His commandments are pretty easy. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and soul and love your neighbor as yourself.  Everything else, all those other commands, they are not as important because the spirit of the law is encompassed in the first two.  If you Love God and you love others, you will always have the best of intentions and will try to do the right thing.  When we become selfish and don't follow the spirit of the law, we get bogged down in the letter of the law and try to find ways to argue with God about what we can or cannot do.  We try to see how far we can bend the letter of the law and we get into a "law" suit of the worst kind.

Avoiding this pitfall is really simple.  Love God and Serve Others.  If you do that, you can avoid the pain, shame, and guilt of living under the letter of the law.

As for my own attire at the park that day - and for any visit in the future - the result is this: I will no longer wear that shirt to the park...not because it is in any way inappropriate, but because I want to teach my children that even though the theme park is not living by the spirit of the law of their dress code, but the letter of law of said dress code, I want to live by the spirit of law that says to honor the laws of the land.  So I will honor their letter of the law, because my heart, my motives, and my character want to be seen as blameless in God's eyes so I will choose to live by the spirit of His laws ALWAYS.